Friday, April 11, 2014

Bus Bully Learns the Hard Way That You Can Only Push Someone So Far Before They Snap



Bus Bully Learns the Hard Way That You Can Only Push Someone So Far Before They Snap

Image credit: YouTube
Image credit: YouTube

A bully was in for a major surprise after she decided to violently attack a boy on her school bus. While the victim initially sat helplessly as she punched him in the face, pulled his hair and slapped him, she soon learned a lesson she’ll likely never forget.
In video of the attack that was captured on a cell phone and subsequently uploaded to YouTube, the vicious assault unfolds as another boy begs off-camera for the girl to stop.
But she doesn’t listen.
As the berating and beating continues, the victim desperately tries to shield and protect himself, but to no avail.
But then something changes. When the bully starts kicking the boy in the head, he springs to his feet and starts fighting back.
The tables instantaneously turn, as he grabs the her hair and puts her in a headlock, at one point seemingly dragging her over one of the seats; choking sounds can be heard.
“Get his hand off my eye please,” the girl says in the midst of the brawl, a hint of desperation replacing her once-aggressive tone.
Another boy — presumably the girl’s brother — becomes dismayed by what’s unfolding and he steps in to try and stop the bullying victim from getting his revenge.
“Oh hell! Get the — get the — f***! Holy s***! Get the f*** off of my f***ing sister!,” he says, as he tries to physically intervene.
Eventually, the brawl ends and the girl who seemingly started it all looks completely stunned by her victim’s response. Amazingly, the boy who was initially bullied promptly asks if she is “ok.”
Watch it all unfold below (caution: strong language and violence):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=SBjkxS85OAA 

A natural question one might ask is: Where the bus driver was during the attack?
While it’s unclear, a female’s voice can be heard in the background saying, “I can’t stop a thing.”
“There’s nothing I can do. That’s why I tell ya’ll don’t fight,” the woman added. “Nothing to do but call the police…callin’ 911 now.”
It is unclear whether this was the bus driver or another student, but one thing is for certain: no adults intervened to stop the argument, as far as the footage shows.
It’s also unclear when and where this video was captured or whether the boy did anything to anger the girl before the fight ensued, but the scene is certainly unforgettable.
This story is reminiscent of another we covered back in 2011 about a bully in Australia who also got a piece of his own medicine. And in 2012, a bullied bus monitor turned a horrific verbal attack into something entirely positive.
(H/T: WPIX-TV)

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Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Study: Sexual Harassment Frequent Among Middle School Students


At least 1 in 4 middle school students say they’ve experienced unwanted verbal or physical sexual harassment on school grounds, often in the hallway or even in the classroom, according to new research published Sunday. 
Researchers from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign surveyed nearly 1,400 students from four Midwestern middle schools on whether they had experienced unwanted sexual harassment. Overall, 27 percent of girls and 25 percent of boys reported they had experienced verbal or physical sexual harassment or violence.
The most commonly reported form of harassment was unwanted physical touching, which was reported by 21.6 percent of the students who said they had experienced harassment. Rumor-spreading, verbal sexual commentary and homophobic name-calling were the next most frequently reported at 18.9 percent, 18.2 percent and 17.9 percent, respectively.
One surprising finding to the researchers was where the incidents of harassment took place. The majority – 22.7 percent – took place in school hallways, closely followed by classrooms (21.4 percent), school gyms (13 percent) and near school lockers (9.7 percent)
“Hallways made sense. Even the gym made sense,” says Dorothy Espelage, principal investigator of the study and a professor of educational psychology. “The classroom was very surprising to our team.”
Espelage says although the number of students who reported unwanted sexual harassment is alarming and “very, very concerning,” it was also interesting to see that many students were dismissive of the incidents. 
“We didn’t ask them to talk about how normal sexual harassment was,” Espelage says. “We asked them the most upsetting event … and they would almost undo it as if to say, ‘But that’s just joking.’”
Overall, nearly 9 percent of the responses from students who said they had been sexually harassed included some form of “normalizing,” the study found. 
“It is a cause of concern that these youth are at such a young age dismissive of behaviors that are clearly distressing,” the study says. 
Still, that dismissiveness is perhaps unsurprising, Espelage says, given what the researchers know about the same schools’ teacher and staff perspectives on sexual harassment. In a study published last June, Espelage and her colleagues foundmany school staff members did not understand what constitutes sexual harassment and couldn’t clearly distinguish it from bullying. It also found school staff members were unclear about their roles in “controlling student hypersexuality as opposed to intervening when they observed sexual harassment as the law requires.” 
“We are not talking to kids about what sexual harassment is. We are not talking to kids about boundaries,” Espelage says. “So when these things happen, they don’t know what to call it. They may know they feel uncomfortable and they can tell us it was upsetting to them, but the adults around them aren’t necessarily talking to them about their rights.”
Espelage says in her previous study, some teachers’ attitudes toward sexual harassment also were somewhat dismissive – claiming students should expect it based on how they behave or dress – and that attitude could at least partially explain the prevalence of sexual harassment that takes place in the classroom. On the other hand, Espelage says people can forget that teachers often don’t see or hear everything that goes on in the classroom, which doesn’t always equate to being negligent or dismissive
According to a 1999 Supreme Court ruling, educators at any school receiving federal funding are required to stop students from sexually harassing each other or the school could lose that funding. In 2010, the Department of Education sent a “Dear Colleague” letter to school officials nationwide reminding them that it’s important to distinguish between bullying and different types of discriminatory harassment, including sexual harassment. 
“As discussed in more detail below, by limiting its response to a specific application of its anti-bullying disciplinary policy, a school may fail to properly consider whether the student misconduct also results in discriminatory harassment,” the letter said. 
That’s why it is important for schools to make sure their teachers and staff are properly educated about sexual harassment and trained to address such incidents, Espelage says. 
“Schools need to go beyond just putting a sexual harassment policy in a handbook and having parents and students sign off on it,” she says. “It’s a shame the Department of Education has to threaten them in some ways. A school could have public funds pulled and be put under investigation. It’s a shame you have to pull that card.”
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Tuesday, April 1, 2014

As popularity rises,
so does risk of being bullied


Michelle Healy, USA TODAY
12:04 a.m. EDT April 1, 2014
Adolescents are often targeted for bullying because of their appearance, sexual orientation or loner status. But not all bullying victims fit that profile.
New research suggests that as students become more popular and climb the social hierarchy of middle and high school, they are at increased risk for gossip, harassment and even physical attacks from rivals competing for status.
And the adverse consequences of that bullying — including increased depression, anxiety and anger, and decreased school attachment — are magnified the more popular the victim, according to the paper published in April's American Sociological Review.
It argues that high-status students "may have more to lose than someone who already occupies a position of relative social isolation, or perhaps (they) are more unsuspecting victims than those on the periphery, and therefore react particularly strongly."
This type of victimization is "a distinct pattern of bullying that's often not thought of as bullying" and consequently goes unaddressed, says Robert Faris, an associate professor of sociology at the University of California-Davis and study co-author.
Students not only don't think of this interaction as bullying, they also don't call it that, opting instead for "drama, talking s--- or beef," Faris says.
The new study is "a sequel" to research published in 2011 by Faris and co-author Diane Felmlee, a professor of sociology at Pennsylvania State University, which found the more popular middle and high school students became, the more likely they were to be aggressive and exhibit bullying behavior. In the follow-up, the co-authors focus on who the aggressive students are targeting and with what consequence.
Both studies rely on a longitudinal survey of 4,200 students in eighth, ninth and 10th grades, conducted at 19 public schools in three counties in North Carolina.
In interviews, students were asked to name their five best friends in the school and that information was used to create complex social maps that identified students' popularity and the social network of the schools. To create similar maps focused on victimization and aggression, students were asked to name up to five schoolmates who picked on them or were unkind to them and up to five peers whom they picked on or were mean to.
An analysis showed that among both boys and girls, if a student was is in the middle of the school social hierarchy — the 50th percentile — and moved up the social ladder to the 95th percentile, the likelihood that he or she would be victimized by his or her peers increased by more than 25%.
However, once students reached the pinnacle of the school hierarchy — the top 5% of popularity — the likelihood of being victimized plummeted. "While the climb to the top of the social ladder can be painful, the very top rung offers a safe perch above the fray," Faris says.
"We don't want to suggest that this is the only way that kids become more or less popular," he adds, "but this is one way that some kids seem to climb the (social) ladder."
The findings are in line with "what we've always suspected about bullying and known from some prior research, that bullies are in part motivated to gain social status and power over other people," says Laura Bogart, a social psychologist at Boston Children's Hospital who was not involved in the study.
Schools, educators and parents may not notice the "covert victimization" of students who seemingly "have it all," whether it's the captain of a high profile sports team or a highly involved student with lots of friends, says Susan Swearer, professor of school psychology at the University of Nebraska — Lincoln and co-director of the Bullying Research Network. She was not involved in the new study.
"But these kids, within their pairs of friendships, can be targeted as well" with significant mental health consequences, Swearer says.
Given the study's suggestion that bullying is about a wide range of students and not just limited to certain stigmatized individuals, "anti-bullying interventions that focus on the entire school are warranted more than ever," Bogart says.
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