Wednesday, May 30, 2012

8 Things Parents Should Know About Bully






8 Things Parents Should Know About Bully



1. What’s it about?
The much-talked about, oft-debated documentary looks at the problem of bullying in schools from the perspective of five kids and their families, mostly from small towns. Two of the families included have lost children to suicide as a result of bullying. The stories are powerful and not only look at the problem through the victims’ eyes, but also offer some solutions for how society should deal with bullying. The film opened in New York and Los Angeles a couple of weeks ago and opened in 50 additional cities yesterday.

2. Does it live up to the hype?
There was an awful lot of talk surrounding this movie, possibly more hype than it was possible to live up to. And the movie was still good and worth seeing. However, I kept waiting for the big ending and the important takeaway … and there wasn’t one. Toward the end, one of the kids featured in the film says we “can’t change it all at once” and maybe that’s the lesson. If we all make little changes, we might eventually end this problem. Like Curtis Silver said yesterday, ending bullying requires vigilance.

3. Will I like it?
I’m not sure “like” is appropriate for a movie that’s meant to make you feel at least a little uncomfortable, but the story is well told and the people featured are likable (except for the most inept school administrator on the face of the planet). The film moves quickly and it’s definitely worth seeing.

4. Is it appropriate for kids?
Absolutely. There is bullying violence and some language, but, unfortunately, probably not anything your kids haven’t seen or heard before. There’s value for all kids, whether they are bullies, have been bullied, or are bystanders. When kids see how other kids are going through similar issues to them, perhaps they will make a change for themselves or help others.

5. Is it closer to PG-13 or R?
I was shocked that this movie was rated R at one point. Even with the addition of the three f-words that were cut, it wouldn’t have felt even close to an R. The language that is in it comes at the beginning and is forgettable. However, there is content in it that is more worth mentioning than the profanity.
There are some families in this movie whose children have committed suicide. Other kids talk about either thinking about it or attempting to kill themselves or hurt themselves. This issue is definitely worth a discussion with your kids, because the movie is a documentary and what happens on screen is all very real.

6. Is it too scary?
It’s purposefully uncomfortable. There were moments so astounding — regarding the stupidity of adults — that there were audible gasps from people in the theatre where I saw the movie. Some kids who have been bullied may have a difficult time watching kids onscreen be abused both verbally and physically. Further, there’s a moment where a girl who was bullied brings a gun aboard a bus and waves it about, which may be scary to some kids.

7. Will I want to see it again?
I will be going again so my kids (age 10) can see it. I’m not sure there’s much point in seeing it again after that, though. After the first viewing, the message will have been delivered, and there wasn’t a lot of nuance that could have been missed.

8. When’s the best time for a bathroom break?
The movie is just 94 minutes long and moves along at a brisk pace, especially for a documentary. However, there are still a couple moments when you could leave: first at the 30 minute mark after meeting Tyler’s parents, and then again at the 60 minute mark after meeting Devon.



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